Ask Rhonda, Matt, and David!
Tips for Joy and more!
In today’s Ask David, we are honored to feature Matthew May, MD, a former student of David’s during his psychiatric residency training, and now esteemed colleague.
Rhonda and David are thrilled that Matt can join us, not only because he is a dear and loved colleague, but also because he is one of the greatest therapists on planet earth! Plus, he’s an incredibly gentle and compassionate man.
- Rhonda Asks: What is the most effective way to help a suicidal patient?
- Rhonda Asks: How would you teach, the technique, Thinking in Shades of Grey to therapists or patients?
- Brian Asks: Any tips for joy?
- ThisLife asks: “Could you possibly explain why Albert Elis thinks the three valid uses of shoulds are valid, and provide the source where he explain this point, if convenient?”
- Mark Asks: Why is trying to change a person or help fix a person’s emotional problems insulting? And how can I stop this habit?
Along the same lines, EJG asks, “What’s the best way to help people who don’t want any help?”
Rhonda and David
If you would like to contact Dr. May, you can reach him at his website.
Dr. Rhonda Barovsky practices in Walnut Creek, California, but due to Covid-19 restrictions is working via Zoom, and can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org. She is a Level 4 Certified TEAM-CBT therapist and trainer and specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship problems. Check out her new website: www.feelinggreattherapycenter.com.
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Hi David, Rhonda, and Matt
Just listened to this episode and wanted to share a perspective on suicide. It strikes me that a useful approach here is to break the issue down into three distinct parts. (1) The problem of suffering (2) The motivation to solve that problem (3) The chosen solution. We may first compassionately acknowledge the absolute validity of (1), the problem of suffering. Whether its cause is cognitive, physical, or some combination of both, the felt sensation is real. Second, we may comprehensively unpack the core motivations (2) one has to resolve that problem through skillful positive reframing. Matt did a great job of providing some specific example of this (ie, compassion to end emotional or physical pain, retribution applied to a perceived injustice, etc…). Lastly, we may now discuss solutions (3) to the problem(s) presented in (1). In this way, suicide is now shown to be a flawed permanent “all or nothing” solution to problems that may be either temporary and/or solved using MUCH better methods.
Thanks, Richard. Appreciate your comment. I also like to break things down into small pieces! And your conclusion is right on, too! david
Hi guys. I just wanted to sat that I hadn’t heard Matt until now. I had heard a lot of good things about him from David and Rhonda, but now I see what they meant.
Thank you, Matt, for your passion in what you do!
Thanks, Eduardo. Will read today when we record, as Matt will join us for an Ask David and Matt! d