Welcome to the Relationships area of Feelinggood.com, where you’ll learn to develop more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

Here are some key topics to get you started:

1.Five Secrets Training

Would you like greater intimacy and respect, and more rewarding relationships with the people you care about?

If so, the podcast series on the Five Secrets of Effective Communication will be right up your alley. These podcasts include vignettes illustrating challenging therapeutic logjams that were resolved with the skillful use of the Five Secrets, as well as examples of how you can use the Five Secretes with loved ones, friends, colleagues, customers, and even aggressive or irritating strangers. The goal is to help you develop greater love, satisfaction, and joy in your interactions with the people you care about.

• 065: Five Secrets Training – Enjoy Greater Intimacy!
• 066: Five Secrets Training – The Disarming Technique
• 067: Five Secrets Training  – Thought and Feeling Empathy
• 068: Five Secrets Training – Inquiry: Helen Returns!
• 069: FIve Secrets Training – “I Feel” Statements
• Five Secrets Training – Stroking

2.Interpersonal Model

This is a series of podcasts on how to transform troubled relationships into loving ones–if that’s what you want to do!

• 054: Interpersonal Model (Part 1) — “And It’s All Your Fault!” Healing Troubled Relationships
• 055: Interpersonal Model (Part 2) — “And It’s All Your Fault!” Three Basic Assumptions
• 056: Interpersonal Model (Part 3) — “And It’s All Your Fault!” Interpersonal Decision-Making and Blame Cost-Benefit Analysis
• 057: Interpersonal Model (Part 4) — “And It’s All Your Fault!” The Relationship Journal

3.Live Session with Lee

A live therapy session illustrating how TEAM-CBT is used to treat troubled relationships. Lee is a colleague of mine who wanted help with his marriage. He explained that his wife was very controlling and critical of him and attributed this to the fact that she had a controlling mother. This is very typical in troubled relationships, most of us are convinced that the problem is the other person’s fault. Of course, Lee told us that his wife, in turn, blames back and feels that Lee is the one who needs to change.

Lee initially thought we’d do couples therapy, but in TEAM-CBT we actually prefer to treat just one person in a troubled relationship.

• 096: Live Session with Lee, Part 1: “Why is my wife trying to control me?”
• 097: Live Session with Lee, Part 2: The Death of the Ego
• 098: Live Session with Lee, Part 3: The Rebirth