Here’s your paradoxical tip of the day!
Sometimes, psychotherapy dovetails with religious teachings. What does this passage, from Romans 2:1 mean?
For whenever you blame another you condemn yourself.
Although this is from the New Testament, similar ideas have been expressed in all or nearly all religions, including Buddhism. But what does this passage actually mean, and how does it relate to the Interpersonal TEAM model that is currently featured in the Feeling Good Podcasts (the live session with Lee, Podcasts #96, #97, and #98.)
There are numerous areas of overlap between psychological and theological thinking. This is just one example!
Use the Reply / Comment feature below to let us to know how you understand today’s tip.
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When you defend yourself after being criticized, you prove the criticism is true.
Hi Angela, Yup! Yup! Yup! Right on! david
Hi David and Fabrice, as you have told us many times, David, blaming is so easy, but it is hardly the whole truth. We condemn ourselves when we blame, because blaming is a refusal to consider our own part in the problem or in the relationship. By failing to consider our own part in the problem, we end up believing in a lie rather than the truth. Once I was willing to consider my own part in the problem, my eyes were opened to the horrible truth that I was causing problems in my marriage. Instead of focusing on what my wife was doing wrong, I saw that I was doing wrong things myself. I am still in the process of fixing my own “wrongs” but in doing so, I do them happily, realizing that what my wife does is not entirely her fault but a combination of what I do and her response to me. I feel less threatened by her “wrongs,” more empowered in changing myself, and I hope so much more loving to her, my dear wife.
Hi Michael, Your words are very strong and clear, and I agree with everything you said! Your comment was especially positive for me because I can see that some folks are “getting it,” even though the message can be a bit painful, when we examine ourselves and have to look into the chasm, so to speak! david
On a higher level we are all part of something greater — part of a human consciousness, part of a human family, etc.. If we hurt others we hurt part of ourself.
On an interpersonal level, if we condemn others with black and white thinking, (overgeneralizing, mental filter, etc), then we are prone to condemn ourselves with black and white thinking. If I say “you always do this” then I’m likely to use “always” in my self judgments at times.
Hi Kreg, these are certainly very good points, too! Thanks! d
You blame others for your misery when in fact you have to examine your role in the process..
Yes, right on! Good thinking. davidomablog