Part 6—M = Methods (cont’d)
Podcast 34: Live Therapy Session with Mark: “I’ve been a failure.”
M = Methods (cont’d)
In the last podcast, David and Jill helped Mark challenge one of his negative thoughts, “There must be a defect in my brain that prevents me from developing a loving relationship with my son,” using Identify the distortions and the Paradoxical Double Standard Technique. In this podcast, they continue encouraging mark to challenge his negative thoughts using additional techniques, including the Externalization of Voices, which is arguably the most powerful Cognitive Therapy technique ever created. The goal of the Externalization of Voices is to create genuine and lasting change at the gut level.
Although it is one of the first cognitive Therapy techniques Dr. Burns created, it is rarely used by cognitive therapists in the United States, perhaps because it is so edgy, or perhaps because it is sophisticated and requires a high degree of therapist skill. The Externalization of Voices is often paired with another technique Dr. Burns created called the Acceptance Paradox. The goal of the Acceptance Paradox is a profound and lasting change in the patient’s core beliefs and values, and it sometimes triggers spiritual enlightenment, although it is an entirely secular method.
Jill and David also use the Semantic Method and Re-attribution in this segment, and end with a brief illustration of how Mark might interact differently with his son using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication. David and Jill emphasize that this is the “External Solution,” and that up to this point in the session they’ve been working on the “Internal Solution.”
In the next podcast, Jill and David will return to T = Testing to find out how Mark feels at the end of the session, and how he rates Jill and David for Empathy, Helpfulness, and other measures of the therapeutic relationship. At the end of the session, Dr. Burns asks Mark if the change was real, or simply something fake for the purpose of the podcast. At that point, something stunning happens, which turned out to be the highlight of the entire session. So stay tuned!
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