End Habits and Addictions!

End Habits and Addictions!

Dr. Jill Levitt and I are offering what I think will be an outstanding workshop on the treatment of unwanted habits and addictions on Sunday, February 10. Our Sunday workshops are tremendously fun, so consider attending if you are interested. You can come in-person or join online.

During the program, you will have the chance to work on one of your own habits / addictions  so you will get the double benefit of learning cool new treatment techniques and doing some personal healing at the same time!

You will develop a deeper understanding of Outcome and Process Resistance, and you will learn how to deal with this twin-horned Devil. As you know, TEAM-CBT features many innovative techniques to reduce Outcome and Process Resistance.

Here’s the BAD news. Very few therapists have the skills, insights, or mind-set to deal with resistance, and this is the main cause of therapeutic failure in the treatment of depression, anxiety disorders, relationship problems, and habits and addictions.

Here’s the GOOD news. Once you acquire these skills, your clinical effectiveness will soar!

Here are the specifics–

Coming Soon!

Act fast if you want to attend!

Don’t miss out learning from David Burns, MD, one of the great pioneers of Cognitive Therapy, and from the fabulous, Jill Levitt, PhD, Director of Training at the Feeling Good Institute in Mt. View, CA!

TEAM-CBT Methods for Unwanted Habits and Addictions: Step-by-Step Training for Therapists

WHEN: February 10th, 2019, 8:30 am – 4:30 pm PST (11:30 am-7:30 pm EST)

WHERE: Join us live online or in person at the Creekside Inn, Palo Alto, CA.

HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? $135,

WILL I GET CE CREDITS? YES!
7 CE hours available

WILL I GET CREDIT IN THE TEAM LICENSURE PROGRAM? YES!
Completion of this workshop also counts towards TEAM-CBT Level 1, 2 or 3 Certification

WHO CAN ATTEND? Therapists of all levels are welcome

CAN I REGISTER IF I’M NOT A THERAPIST? In my opinion (Dr. Burns), although the workshop is geared for therapists, it will be taught in a clear and basic way that anyone can benefit from. Please check with the Feeling Good Institute if you want to attend.

CAN I WORK ON MY OWN HABIT / ADDICTION? Absolutely!
Heal yourself, heal your clients!

WILL I HAVE FUN? Yes!

WILL I HAVE SOME GREAT FREE BREAKFAST AND LUNCH? Yes!

WILL I HANG OUT WITH SOME COOL PEOPLE? Yes!

You will also:

  • Learn new skills to reduce resistance and boost the motivation to change. This is THE key to the treatment of any habit or addiction.
  • Learn how to use Dr. Burns’ powerful Decision-Making Tool and Triple Paradox Technique.
  • Practice and master the Devil’s Advocate Technique to help you and your patients overcome difficult-to-stop habits and addictions to drugs, alcohol, overeating, procrastination, and more.

You will love this lively, amusing, and immensely useful day of training with Drs. Burns, Levitt and the Feeling Good Institute Staff. The trainers will use a combination of didactic teaching, live demonstrations, and breakout group practice to enhance skill-building.

This wonderful workshop will stream live and is easily accessible from anywhere in the world on any device with WiFi. To join, just click on the link provided before the workshop.

REGISTER / LEARN MORE

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If you can’t join us for the addictions workshop, consider this cool program on the treatment of anxiety disorders in the spring:

TEAM-CBT Methods for Anxiety Disorders–

Step-by-Step Training for Therapists

by David D. Burns, MD and Jill Levitt, PhD

May 19, 2019

You can attend in person or from home via Live Streaming

Stay tuned for more details or check it out now!

 

Two Cool Upcoming Workshops for YOU!

Two Cool Upcoming Workshops for YOU!

End Habits and Addictions!

Coming Soon!

Act fast if you want to attend!

Don’t miss out learning from David Burns, MD, one of the great pioneers of Cognitive Therapy, and from the fabulous, Jill Levitt, PhD, Director of Training at the Feeling Good Institute in Mt. View, CA!

TEAM-CBT Methods for Unwanted Habits and Addictions: Step-by-Step Training for Therapists

WHEN: February 10th, 2019, 8:30 am – 4:30 pm PST (11:30 am-7:30 pm EST)

WHERE: Join us live online or in person at the Creekside Inn, Palo Alto, CA.

HOW MUCH DOES IT COST? $135,

WILL I GET CE CREDITS? YES!
7 CE hours available

WILL I GET CREDIT IN THE TEAM LICENSURE PROGRAM? YES!
Completion of this workshop also counts towards TEAM-CBT Level 1, 2 or 3 Certification

WHO CAN ATTEND? Therapists of all levels are welcome

CAN I REGISTER IF I’M NOT A THERAPIST? In my opinion (Dr. Burns), although the workshop is geared for therapists, it will be taught in a clear and basic way that anyone can benefit from. Please check with the Feeling Good Institute if you want to attend.

CAN I WORK ON MY OWN HABIT / ADDICTION? Absolutely!
Heal yourself, heal your clients!

WILL I HAVE FUN? Yes!

WILL I HAVE SOME GREAT FREE BREAKFAST AND LUNCH? Yes!

WILL I HANG OUT WITH SOME COOL PEOPLE? Yes!

You will also:

  • Learn new skills to reduce resistance and boost the motivation to change. This is THE key to the treatment of any habit or addiction.
  • Learn how to use Dr. Burns’ powerful Decision-Making Tool and Triple Paradox Technique.
  • Practice and master the Devil’s Advocate Technique to help you and your patients overcome difficult-to-stop habits and addictions to drugs, alcohol, overeating, procrastination, and more.

You will love this lively, amusing, and immensely useful day of training with Drs. Burns, Levitt and the Feeling Good Institute Staff. The trainers will use a combination of didactic teaching, live demonstrations, and breakout group practice to enhance skill-building.

This wonderful workshop will stream live and is easily accessible from anywhere in the world on any device with WiFi. To join, just click on the link provided before the workshop.

REGISTER / LEARN MORE

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TEAM-CBT Methods for Anxiety Disorders–

Step-by-Step Training for Therapists

by David D. Burns, MD and Jill Levitt, PhD

May 19, 2019

You can attend in person or from home via Live Streaming

Stay tuned for more details or check it out now!

 

116: Spirituality and Psychotherapy: Contradictory or Complementary?

116: Spirituality and Psychotherapy: Contradictory or Complementary?

Fabrice and David interview Mike Christensen, a prominent Canadian TEAM-CBT therapist and trainer, on the overlap, or conflict, between psychotherapy and religious beliefs.

Hi everybody!

Many listeners have sent us emails with questions about the connections between TEAM-CBT and their religious beliefs. Is there an inherent conflict? Or a synergistic compatibility?

I couldn’t think of a more eminently qualified colleague to help address those questions than my dear friend and esteemed colleague, Mike Christensen. Mike is a prominent Canadian TEAM-CBT therapist and trainer. Mike served as a Christian minister before his discovery of TEAM-CBT, which affected him in a profound way, on a personal, spiritual and professional level as well.

This dynamic interview covers the integration of TEAM-CBT with Christianity as well as Judaism, Buddhism, Hinduism, the Muslim faith, and more. Mike, Fabrice and I describe many areas of overlap, as well as some potential conflicts, between the teachings and methods of TEAM-CBT and religious beliefs. Mike and I suggest that religion and TEAM-CBT are, in fact, attempting to do the exact same things using slightly different language and symbolism. We strongly agree that at the moment of recovery, a person’s religious beliefs are nearly always strengthened and deepened, and never challenged or belittled.

Mike, Fabrice and I also discuss topics like religious scrupulosity, religious obsessions, cognitive distortions (John 8:32: “The truth will set you free”), and the so-called “dark night of the soul” described by Christian and Buddhist mystics. We also talk about the spiritual and psychological aspects of enlightenment (e.g. salvation), Should Statements, the Disarming Technique, forgiveness, repentance, the death of the ego, pride vs. humility, and more.

If you have an interest in religious or philosophical topics, you will love this podcast! You might also enjoy the podcasts with Marilyn on what to do when you’ve lost your belief in God and find yourself in darkness and intense suffering!

Mike Christensen treats individuals throughout Canada via teletherapy and also offers online training for mental health professionals throughout the world. If you have a question for Mike, or wish to contact him, you can find him at www.FeelingGoodInstitute.com. Here’s his link for treatment, and here’s his link for online training.

Additional Resources

CBT and Christianity: Strategies and Resources for Reconciling Faith in Therapy.
by Michael L. Free

Dr. Fabrice Nye currently practices in Redwood City, California and treats individuals throughout the world via teletherapy. You can reach him at fabrice@life.net.

You can reach Dr. Burns at David@feelinggood.com.

David

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Dr. Fabrice Nye currently practices in Redwood City, California and works with individuals throughout the world via teletherapy (although not across U.S. state lines). You can reach him at fabrice@life.net. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. If you like our jingle music and would like to support the composer Brett Van Donsel, you may download it here.

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Upcoming Workshop Schedule

The following schedule will evolve as I add new workshops or update details. Check back here at times to stay informed.

TREAT ANXIETY FAST–

Powerful, Fast-Acting, Drug-Free Techniques 
to Defeat Anxiety & Worry

a 2-day workshop by David D. Burns, MD

November 29 and 30, 2018: San Francisco, CA
(in person only)

and

December 3 and 4, 2018: Portland, Oregon
(in person and live streaming)

PESI is proud to offer an exciting workshop by David Burns, M.D., a pioneer in the development of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). Achieve rapid and lasting recovery with all your anxious clients, just as Dr. Burns has done in over 35,000 therapy sessions with severely troubled clients. Become skilled at treating every type of anxiety without drugs.

In this unique 2-day certificate course you’ll master more than 20 treatment techniques to help your clients eliminate the symptoms of anxiety quickly – even your most challenging, resistant clients.

Dr. Burns will illustrate concrete strategies that provide rapid, complete recovery and lasting change for your patients. You’ll learn…

  • How to integrate four powerful treatment models to eliminate symptoms.
  • How to enhance your client’s engagement in therapy.
  • How to develop a treatment plan that specifically targets each client’s unique problems and needs.
  • …and so much more!

David will provide you with guided instruction and share powerful video sessions that capture the actual moment of recovery. You will take away practical strategies to use immediately with any anxious client. Leave this certificate course armed with tools you can use in your very next session!

Don’t miss this opportunity to learn from one of America’s most highly acclaimed teachers!

Sponsored by PESI

To register, or for more information, call: 800-844-8260

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Brief Therapy Conference, December 6 – 9, Burlingame, California

Sponsored by the Milton Erikson Foundation

I will be giving a Keynote Address on

Overcoming Therapeutic Resistance

on Sunday, December 9, 2018, from  2:30 – 3:30 PM

plus a two-hour workshop on Friday, December 7, 2018 from 10:45 AM – 12:45, with Dr. Jill Levitt on

Healing Yourself: A Live Demonstration of TEAM-CBT

plus two other presentations at this fantastic event.

I’ll also be doing a “Great Conversations” dialogue with Dr. Jeffrey Zeig on the treatment of addictions and the incredibly important concept of non-linear recovery.

 

115: Ending Addictions

115: Ending Addictions

Fabrice and David interview Stephen Pfleiderer, founder of San Francisco Intervention, on the treatment of habits and addictions.

Hi everybody!

Fabrice and I were thrilled to interview our dear friend and colleague, Stephen Pfleiderer, who is the first therapist in the world using TEAM-CBT techniques in the treatment of habits and addictions, including

  • life threatening addictions, like intravenous heroin or meth
  • marijuana
  • alcohol
  • binge eating
  • procrastination
  • smoking
  • internet porn
  • and more

Stephen begins with his personal story of excessive beer drinking starting in high school through his junior year in college when he hit a personal crisis, telling himself, “My life sucks. I can’t live like this. I’m a loser.” He decided to enter a 12-step recovery program, which helped tremendously, and eventually joined David’s weekly TEAM training group at Stanford because of his dream of becoming a professional addiction therapist and interventionist.

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Stephen describes his painful personal history of being beaten up and bullied in grammar school and high school, and how he still struggled with strong feelings of anxiety, shame, inadequacy and anger in spite of achieving sobriety. He explains how “TEAM put my personal recovery on steroids” and opened new doors in his understanding and treatment of addictions as well.

Stephen describes his new and highly innovative ways of treating individuals who seek treatment voluntarily (60% of his practice) as well as those who are treated with interventions (40% of his practice). He emphasizes the immense importance of dealing with the patient’s resistance, as opposed to trying to “help,” which fails nearly 100% of the time and can actually make the user more determined to use drugs or alcohol.

He also describes the addiction of family members to trying to “help,” and their intense  fears of moving in a new and different direction.  He explains how an intervention works, and how it differs radically from the dramatic and confrontational interventions seen on television. He compares his interventions to surgical procedures that require a great deal of preparation and hard work.

Shockingly, Stephen never tries to persuade an addict to change, but rather highlights all the reasons NOT to change and all the reasons to keep using. Why in the world would an addiction expert want to do that! Listen to this fascinating podcast and find out!

If you have a question for Stephen, he can be reached at www.SFIntervention.com.

Dr. Fabrice Nye currently practices in Redwood City, California and treats individuals throughout the world via teletherapy. You can reach him at fabrice@life.net.

You can reach Dr. Burns at David@feelinggood.com.

David

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Dr. Fabrice Nye currently practices in Redwood City, California and works with individuals throughout the world via teletherapy (although not across U.S. state lines). You can reach him at fabrice@life.net. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. If you like our jingle music and would like to support the composer Brett Van Donsel, you may download it here.

* * *

Upcoming Workshop Schedule

The following schedule will evolve as I add new workshops or update details. Check back here at times to stay informed.

TREAT ANXIETY FAST–

Powerful, Fast-Acting, Drug-Free Techniques 
to Defeat Anxiety & Worry

a 2-day workshop by David D. Burns, MD

November 29 and 30, 2018: San Francisco, CA
(in person only)

and

December 3 and 4, 2018: Portland, Oregon
(in person and live streaming)

PESI is proud to offer an exciting workshop by David Burns, M.D., a pioneer in the development of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). Achieve rapid and lasting recovery with all your anxious clients, just as Dr. Burns has done in over 35,000 therapy sessions with severely troubled clients. Become skilled at treating every type of anxiety without drugs.

In this unique 2-day certificate course you’ll master more than 20 treatment techniques to help your clients eliminate the symptoms of anxiety quickly – even your most challenging, resistant clients.

Dr. Burns will illustrate concrete strategies that provide rapid, complete recovery and lasting change for your patients. You’ll learn…

  • How to integrate four powerful treatment models to eliminate symptoms.
  • How to enhance your client’s engagement in therapy.
  • How to develop a treatment plan that specifically targets each client’s unique problems and needs.
  • …and so much more!

David will provide you with guided instruction and share powerful video sessions that capture the actual moment of recovery. You will take away practical strategies to use immediately with any anxious client. Leave this certificate course armed with tools you can use in your very next session!

Don’t miss this opportunity to learn from one of America’s most highly acclaimed teachers!

Sponsored by PESI

To register, or for more information, call: 800-844-8260

* * *

Brief Therapy Conference, December 6 – 9, Burlingame, California

Sponsored by the Milton Erikson Foundation

I will be giving a Keynote Address on

Overcoming Therapeutic Resistance

on Sunday, December 9, 2018, from  2:30 – 3:30 PM

plus a two-hour workshop on Friday, December 7, 2018 from 10:45 AM – 12:45, with Dr. Jill Levitt on

Healing Yourself: A Live Demonstration of TEAM-CBT

plus two other presentations at this fantastic event.

I’ll also be doing a “Great Conversations” dialogue with Dr. Jeffrey Zeig on the treatment of addictions and the incredibly important concept of non-linear recovery.

 

Enjoy David’s Fabulous Canadian Summer Intensive!*

Enjoy David’s Fabulous Canadian Summer Intensive!*

Coming in July! My annual Canadian summer intensive!

“Advanced Cognitive Therapy for
Depression and Anxiety Disorders”

Whistler, BC, Canada
July 3 – 6, 2018

This brief video will explain why you should attend!

For workshop description / registration details, click–Jack Hirose & Associates Inc.
Phone: 604.924.0296, Toll-free: 1.800.456.5424

You’ll LOVE this workshop and you’ll learn TONS of helpful techniques to treat depression, anxiety disorders, and habits and addictions.

You’ll have your evenings free to enjoy the beautiful Whistler countryside, and I will likely offer optional evening hikes as well, with opportunities for personal work and consultation.

You’ll learn how to heal your clients and your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt as well!

Mike Christensen and several others will be joining me at Whistler to help out with supervision of the small group exercises. Mike and I will also be doing a live therapy demonstration with an audience volunteer on the morning of day 2. Mike is a tremendous teacher and therapist, and a highly esteemed friend and colleague.

I hope you can join us in Whistler!

087: Role-Play Techniques (Part 5) — The Devil’s Advocate Technique

087: Role-Play Techniques (Part 5) — The Devil’s Advocate Technique

In today’s podcast, we will illustrate the Devil’s Advocate Technique, another one of the role-playing techniques in TEAM-CBT. You can use this technique for any habit or addiction, such as:

  • Drug or alcohol abuse
  • Overeating / binge eating
  • Shopping addiction
  • Internet addiction
  • And procrastination, which is our problem for today.

David and Fabrice are joined by Sara Shane, a member of David’s Tuesday evening psychotherapy Stanford training group for northern California mental health professionals. Sara has volunteered to demonstrate the technique to see if she can get some help with procrastination.

Sara explains that she has a small clinical practice in the central valley of California working with children but would like to expand her practice to include teenagers and adults, so she can use the exciting TEAM-CBT skills she’s been learning in the Tuesday group over the past year. In addition, Sara is bilingual, so this would open up the possibility that many Spanish speaking individuals could have the opportunity for treatment with TEAM-CBT.

But to do that, Sara would have to start marketing her practice, but she’s been procrastinating. She never seems to get around to it, and always places the wants and needs of others in her family above her own.

David asks her what it is she’d have to do. She says she wants to put together a brochure describing her work so she could send it to people on her mailing list who might send her some referrals. David ask her to list the first few steps of her task, limiting what she would have to do to just to get started, something requiring only about 5 minutes.

Here are the first steps, and time required for each:

  1. Sit down at the computer and turn it on. (30 seconds)
  2. Open a blank document in MS Word. (30 seconds)
  3. Jot down a few names for my practice, even if they aren’t especially good (since they can be revised later). (4 to 5 minutes)
  4. Add my contact information. (1 minute).

So, the total time required would be six minutes or so. David asks if she’d be will to do it tomorrow morning from 9 AM to 9:06 AM. She said she’d actually like to start tonight, but it is already 9 PM and she still has a two-hour drive home. So she agrees to do it first thing in the morning instead. She also agrees to send an email to Fabrice and David and the Tuesday group at 9:06 with one of two messages: “Mission Accomplished” or “I stubbornly refused.”

Now we’re ready for the Devil’s Advocate Technique. David and Fabrice will play the role of the Devil who tempts Sara to procrastinate, using the actual thoughts Sara has when she’s procrastinating. They include:

  1. I’ll do it later.
  2. There’s always tomorrow.
  3. I don’t have any appointments tomorrow, so I can start to work on the marketing materials then.
  4. I have to take Mom to her doctor’s appointment now, so I can work on the marketing materials later.
  5. Right now, I just need some rest and relaxation, some time for myself.

David begins and tells Sara, “Oh, you can do it later. There’s no reason for you to have to do it now!”

Sara’s response is decent, but not super-strong. You’ll hear on the audio that it’s a bit half-hearted, and not overwhelmingly convincing. And if she can’t crush the tempting thought during the session, she definitely won’t be able to resist it when she’s home alone.

Instead of giving Sara some tips on how to improve it—which David says the therapist should never do when working with someone with a habit or addiction—David suggests that maybe the problem of procrastination perhaps isn’t something Sara wants to work on right now.

This is called Sitting with Open Hands, and it’s far more powerful than trying to “help.” Trying to help a patient who’s struggling with a habit or addiction will usually just make the problem more intense.

Fabrice points out that people don’t need to be “taught” how to say “no” to some tempting thought. They just have to make a decision!

When David sits with Open Hands, Sara gets agitated and insists she really does want to defeat her procrastination. That’s the most common reaction to “Sitting with Open Hands.”

Then David asks if she’d like to try again. David verbalizes the first tempting thought again, and Sara immediately hits it out of the park in a convincing way.

David and Fabrice take turns as the “Devil,” verbalizing all Sara’s tempting thoughts. One by one, Sara destroys them. She leaves the session on a glow, quite excited about the new direction for her practice.

David and Fabrice emphasize that the Devil’s Advocate Technique is not a method you would just throw at someone with a habit or addiction. Instead, you would work with the person systematically, going through the T E A M model, one step at a time, just as you would with any patient. The Devil’s Advocate Technique is simply one of the M = Methods in TEAM. And it probably won’t be effective if you haven’t done skillful paradoxical agenda setting first, to find out if the patient really is motivated to give up his or her addiction.

Did it work? Was this little mini-session effective? That’s always the question, isn’t it?

Well, here’s the answer! Fabrice and I received this email from Sara this morning:

Hi Dr. Burns and Fabrice,

Thank you so much for the opportunity to volunteer last night for the podcast. What an awesome experience! I am so inspired and motivated that it was hard to stop creating my business postcard to email you that I had accomplished my mission!!!

This is really funny but truly AMAZING!!! I have done beyond what I agreed to do, and this just makes me feel so HAPPY!!!

THANK YOU, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

I’M LOVING THIS!

Sara Shane

Way to go Sara! Fabrice and I are so proud of you, and looking forward to the exciting expansion of your practice!

* Copyright © 2018 by David D. Burns, MD

Some Cool Upcoming Workshops

Coming in May!

May 20th, 2018  Advanced, High-Speed CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety A one day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt. 6 CE Credits, $135
You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

There are only a few spots left for the live workshop in Palo Alto, but we still have room for you to join us for the online version. We will have helpers to guide the small group exercises for those online, as well as those who attend in person.

Coming in June! One of my best two day workshops ever!

“Scared Stiff: Fast, Effective Treatment for Anxiety Disorders”
a two-day workshop Sponsored by Jack Hirose & Associates
June 4 -5, 2018 Calgary, Canada
June 6 – 7, 2018 Winnipeg, Canada
Mike Christensen and several others will be joining me at both locations to help out with supervision of the small group exercises. You’ll LOVE this workshop and you’ll learn TONS of powerful techniques to treat every type of anxiety. You’ll learn how to heal your clients and your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt as well!

I greatly appreciate your support, and hope you will continue to spread the word about TEAM-CBT and www.feelinggood.com. i am trying hard to reach as many people as possible with my free programming and blogs designed to help individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship conflicts, and habits and addictions, as well as the therapists who treat them!

David

 

 

Amazing Follow-Up from the David and Jill FB Show on Defeating Habits and Addictions (April 15, 2018 show)

Amazing Follow-Up from the David and Jill FB Show on Defeating Habits and Addictions (April 15, 2018 show)

David and Jill Show is back! Treating Habits and Addictions, Part 2

Hi all!

Here is a mind-blowing email I just got from a fan who watched the David and Jill Show (with special guest Mike Christensen) two days ago. I’m sure you’re going to LOVE it!

On the show, we illustrated several powerful TEAM-CBT methods for defeating habits and addictions (especially overeating):

  • Double Paradox
  • Addiction / Habit Log
  • Devil’s Advocate Technique
  • and more.

Next Sunday, April 22, 2018, we will probably discuss the Four “Great Deaths” of the Ego on the David and Jill Show at 3 PM. The Buddha was the first, I believe, to talk about the death of the “self” as the key to enlightenment, but now we have not one, but four separate “great deaths.” We will discuss them from a psychological as well as a spiritual perspective.

And now, here’s is the really cool email I just received from an individual I’ll call “X.”

Respected and Dear Dr. Burns,

Your Facebook live show this Sunday (Apr 15th) was just brilliant! I thought it’ll be a good idea to share my own experience with you regarding my problem with overeating. Please let me know if I’ve made any errors while applying Paradoxical Agenda Setting or Devil’s Advocate Technique. I am getting great results and able to follow a diet plan for last two weeks since I did this. Below is my records of 1. Paradoxical Agenda Setting & 2. Devil’s Advocate. 

Paradoxical Agenda Setting for understanding the benefits of my overeating: 

  • I feel great about my life when I eat whatever I want & that I am in control of my finances. 
  • When I order expensive food in classy restaurant, I feel like I’m a financially superior person, 
  • I don’t need to deal with my anxiety & negative thoughts, instead I can order a lot of delicious food. 
  • I can brag about all the things I’ve eaten & efforts I’ve taken to obtain many fine delicacies.
  • I take pride in my fastidious, obsessive admiration of cuisines & demand respect from people around me while eating or cooking anything. 
  • I love to go to expensive restaurants, flaunting mismatch cloths to pretend I’m some well -heeled, eccentric, powerful member of society with great connections & influence.

 With these advantages in my mind I tried the Devil’s Advocate Technique. Here’s my dialogue with the imaginary tempter, the “Devil.” 

Devil (D): Isn’t this a great morning? Let’s begin with a lovely breakfast from ‘German Bakery’ or Starbucks, tell me where do you want to go? 

Me: Yes, this is a truly great morning. I just love it! I’m feeling really fresh & energetic. It is best to start with finishing off the draft of the paper. I don’t think having a breakfast will be        very helpful now. 

D: Oh!!! How can you work on empty stomach? Let’s got to some classy place & have a breakfast shaming even businessmen. 

Me: I know very well that fasting helps me work better with amazing concentration & deep insight. So it is great to have empty stomach; & since when have I started bothering so much about what other think of me? 

D: No, you will get anxious while dealing with difficulties in course of writing the paper. You need to eat something. A sweet, soft, juicy pastry or cheesy, creamy, rich sandwich will help you relax & get in proper mood. Let’s have some mac & cheese with that amazing Mango baked cheese cake! 

Me: Surely, it does makes me relaxed after having the delicacies you mentioned. But this has unfortunate side effect too, as it makes me feel bloated, tired and sleepy. Also the only proven way to deal with anxiety is to understand and record distorted negative thoughts; then countering them with truth based positive thoughts. This whole process itself is very enlightening and sometimes downright enjoyable! 

D: Stop rambling like a stupid. You are what you eat & if you eat nothing, you are nothing – you can’t afford to eat delicious, expensive food & that’s why you pretend you need to diet. It’s just way to fool everyone including yourself, you are actually hiding your poverty & sub-standard quality of life. 

Me: I do find it difficult to agree with “you are what you eat” statement, can you elaborate on it a bit so I can understand it better? For example, if I eat chicken, then do I become chicken? 

D: This just proves it that you are an idiot, sub-standard person, not worthy of living in this society. Your level of stupidity is unprecedented on this planet. For God’s sake just eat something now or you will kill yourself by starving., you stupid fool!!! 

Me: I totally agree with you about my stupidity & I may add to that, I’m sometimes rather stubborn too and that has caused some disasters in past. But I do like to test things thoroughly before I give up on them. And as you said I’m stupid so I may continue ‘stupidly’ believing that following this diet is helping me till I get results contrary to the belief. 

D: It will be too late by then & you’ll permanently damage your brain & kidneys. I have to force you to eat something, now!  

Me: It is better to take chance with this one and according to my doctor this is not remotely as dangerous as you say it is. Hare-brained me can’t understand everything through logical arguments like you do; so I need to take some real experience. What do you think? 

D: I give up! go kill yourself! You alone will be responsible for your misery. 

Me: Oh, not today, but thanks a ton for the suggestion, and for your concern! 

Listening to your Sunday broadcast I felt compelled to try this technique, which has been very helpful! Apologies for a bit long email, I hope you would get time to read it.  

Once again thank you very much for writing the great books and making all the resource available to everyone. I believe I will get a chance to meet you in person someday.

Sincerely,

X

Some Cool Upcoming Workshops

Coming in May! This one is SOLD OUT in person but we still have PLENTY OF SPACE TO JOIN ONLINE!

May 20th, 2018  Advanced, High-Speed CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety A one day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt. 6 CE Credits, $135
You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

There are no spots left for the live workshop in Palo Alto, but we still have room for you to join us for the online version. We will have helpers to guide the small group exercises for those online, including the fantastic Mike Christensen.

Coming in June! One of my best two day workshops ever!

“Scared Stiff: Fast, Effective Treatment for Anxiety Disorders”
a two-day workshop Sponsored by Jack Hirose & Associates
June 4 -5, 2018 Calgary, Canada
June 6 – 7, 2018 Winnipeg, Canada
Mike Christensen and several others will be joining me at both locations to help out with supervision of the small group exercises. You’ll LOVE this workshop and you’ll learn TONS of powerful techniques to treat every type of anxiety. You’ll learn how to heal your clients and your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt as well!

I greatly appreciate your support, and hope you will continue to spread the word about TEAM-CBT and www.feelinggood.com. i am trying hard to reach as many people as possible with my free programming and blogs designed to help individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship conflicts, and habits and addictions, as well as the therapists who treat them!

David

David and Jill Show (live FB Broadcast) with Mike Christensen, Returns Today April 15, 2018 at 3 PM (PT)!

David and Jill Show (live FB Broadcast) with Mike Christensen, Returns Today April 15, 2018 at 3 PM (PT)!

David and Jill Show is back! Treating Habits and Addictions, Part 2

Hi all!

Last week, my guest was Stephen Pfleiderer, founder of SF Intervention, and we discussed treatment of individuals with hard-care addictions. Today, along with Dr. Jill Levitt and Mike Christensen, we will discuss practical tools for individuals fighting less severe habits and addictions such as

  • overeating
  • excessive drinking
  • procrastination
  • shopping addictions
  • drugs
  • and more.

We will illustrate several powerful TEAM-CBT methods such as the

  • Double Paradox
  • Addiction / Habit Log
  • Devil’s Advocate Technique
  • and more.

 

Some Cool Upcoming Workshops

Coming in May!

May 20th, 2018  Advanced, High-Speed CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety A one day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt. 6 CE Credits, $135
You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

There are only a few spots left for the live workshop in Palo Alto, but we still have room for you to join us for the online version. We will have helpers to guide the small group exercises for those online, as well as those who attend in person.

Coming in June! One of my best two day workshops ever!

“Scared Stiff: Fast, Effective Treatment for Anxiety Disorders”
a two-day workshop Sponsored by Jack Hirose & Associates
June 4 -5, 2018 Calgary, Canada
June 6 – 7, 2018 Winnipeg, Canada
Mike Christensen and several others will be joining me at both locations to help out with supervision of the small group exercises. You’ll LOVE this workshop and you’ll learn TONS of powerful techniques to treat every type of anxiety. You’ll learn how to heal your clients and your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt as well!

I greatly appreciate your support, and hope you will continue to spread the word about TEAM-CBT and www.feelinggood.com. i am trying hard to reach as many people as possible with my free programming and blogs designed to help individuals struggling with depression, anxiety, relationship conflicts, and habits and addictions, as well as the therapists who treat them!

David

072: Secrets of Weight Loss — Making Good on Your New Year’s Resolutions!

072: Secrets of Weight Loss — Making Good on Your New Year’s Resolutions!

Why you DON’T really want to lose weight!

In today’s podcast, David and Fabrice address two terrific questions submitted by listeners:

  • Greg: What’s the difference between Outcome and Process Resistance for dieting and weight loss?
  • Gary: How do you deal with motivation and resistance when dealing with habits and addictions, such as overeating, in TEAM-CBT?

David explains that in his workshops, he often asks his audiences, “how many of you would like to lose some weight?” And he asks you that same question now.

In his workshops, 65% of the hands go up. Did your hand go up too?

Then he say, “all of you who raised your hands just made a mistake! You definitely do NOT want to lose weight. You probably DO want to be thin and attractive, and in great physical condition, but you DON’T want to lose weight. Do you know why? There are only two things that you can do to lose weight–diet and exercise. And they both suck!”

David describes two new, powerful techniques he has created for resolving this dilemma–the Double Paradox and Devil’s Advocate Technique. David and Fabrice bring these techniques to life for you. If you are interested in losing weight, make sure you do the two exercises on paper while listening to this podcast. In fact, take a moment, but the podcast on pause, and get a piece of paper and a pen or pencil right now.

Here’s how they work:

  • Double Paradox: First, you draw a line down the middle of a blank sheet of paper, from top to bottom. Label the left-hand column “Advantages” (or ADV) and the right-hand column “Disadvantages” (or DIS). Now, in the left-hand column, list all the Advantages of eating as much as want of whatever you want, whenever you want.  As you will see when listening, there are many! Then, in the right-hand column, list all the disadvantages of diet and exercise. As you will see, there are also many!

David asks, “given all of the tremendous benefits of eating as much as you want whenever you want, and all the overwhelming disadvantages and hassles of dieting and exercising, why in the world would you want to change?”

He explains why this paradoxical strategy can be so powerful and helpful. In essence, the therapist becomes the voice of the patient’s subconscious resistance instead of trying to “help” or persuade the patient to change.

Research and clinical experience confirms that trying to “help” people lose weight is usually doomed to failure. In fact, if you review the world literature on the treatment of habits and addictions, you will discover that practically ALL diets and weight loss programs have limited success AT BEST.

  • Devil’s Advocate: This is a powerful and fun role-playing technique. First, you list all the positive thoughts that tempt you to give in when you are tempted and craving your favorite food–such as pasta, chocolate, ice cream, donuts, or whatever your weakness is. Then you ask a friend or therapist to play the role of the tempting devil who will try to tempt and seduce you into giving in.Your job is to fight back and defeat the devil. You can record the interactions on your cell phone. if you defeat the devil, you can listen to the recording whenever you are tempted!

David also describes a third, time-honored technique that can be important in dieting (or in overcoming any negative habit or addiction):

  • Stimulus Control: Instead of constantly struggling with temptations, you simply avoid them.

David and Fabrice discuss paradoxical vs. straightforward treatment strategies for habits and addictions, and also raise the question of whether there is some “superior” type of diet or exercise, or whether most, if not all, of the action is in the motivation.

David and Fabrice also discuss strategies for maintenance of weight loss once you have achieved your initial goal.

David and Fabrice love your questions so keep them coming!

Fabrice and I hope you enjoy our Podcasts, and also hope you can leave some positive comments for us and some five star ratings if you like what we’re doing!

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At least one listener has had problems leaving an iTunes review from his i-phone, so Fabrice has created some simple to follow instructions if you need help.

 

Role Model? Or Possibility Model?

Role Model? Or Possibility Model?

In my Tuesday evening psychotherapy training seminar at Stanford, we train therapists in TEAM-CBT, and one of the teaching methods involves personal work for the therapists, kind of on the idea of “Physician, heal thyself.” (Luke 4:23) We work on mood problems, like depression and anxiety, relationship problems, and habits and addictions. One of our favorite members, Paulita, just made a brief video describing the work she did recently on her addiction to a certain kind of candy, and graciously allowed me to publish it here! I think you’ll enjoy it!

In her email giving me permission, Paulita wrote,

I would like to be a “Possibility” Model (not Role Model) – because I am an example of the possibility that even old dogs can learn new tricks!

Here’s the way I would put it–are you old enough yet to learn some new tricks? Paulita just turned 80 and is one of our liveliest and most beloved members. She is a local marriage and family therapist, and was originally from the Philippines.

Paulita made the video to help promote a workshop at the Feeling Good Insititute tomorrow (May 21st, 2017) on overcoming habits and addictions using TEAM-CBT. They may have a few spots left, so feel free to check them out if you’d like to attend!

By the way, my Tuesday psychotherapy training group is free of charge to northern California metal health professionals, so contact me if you’d like to visit or learn more about the work we do!

The goofy picture of me at the top (at least for some of you who read this on social media) was taken after our hike on sunday, in a place where you can order exotic Chinese drinks like Mango Lychee Green Tea Teazer (which I had). More on that later! It was a fantastic hike with a special guest.

David

 

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Thanks! David