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062:  Ask David. Five Secrets of Effective Communication / Psychotherapy Homework

062: Ask David. Five Secrets of Effective Communication / Psychotherapy Homework

Will people manipulate you if they catch on to the fact that you’re using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication? Is it fair to ask depressed patients to do psychotherapy homework between sessions when they’re already struggling with a loss of motivation?

In today’s podcast, David and Fabrice address two questions submitted by listeners:

  1. Robert asks whether it would be a problem if you are using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication (the Disarming Technique, Thought and Feeling Empathy, Inquiry, “I Feel” Statements, and Stroking) with someone who is already familiar with these techniques. Isn’t there a danger that they might see through you and  therefore thwart your efforts and manipulate you?
  2. Avi asks about the importance of psychotherapy homework in TEAM-CBT. He points out that the loss of motivation is one of the central symptoms of depression, so aren’t we in a catch 22 type of situation since patients might not have the strength and perseverance to do their homework?

David and Fabrice love your questions so keep them coming!

Fabrice and I hope you enjoy our Podcasts, and also hope you can leave some positive comments for us and some five star ratings if you like what we’re doing!


At least one listener has had problems leaving an iTunes review from his i-phone, so Fabrice has created some simple to follow instructions if you need help.

David Live on FB Tomorrow

David Live on FB Tomorrow

Hi folks,

I will be LIVE on FB tomorrow afternoon, Sunday, October 15th, around 2 p.m. PDT, or a bit later, depending on when we finish our Sunday hike and brunch.

This will be my second live question and answer session on Facebook. I will be on video and will be eager to answer your questions. This is something I love to do! Last week, I did it for the first time at 5th suggestion of my colleague, Lisa Kelley, and people popped up from all over the world, even though we did not announce it ahead of time! Lisa gave me the following code to post, but I don’t know what it is or how it works!

Please share this post to spread the news! Hope to see you and talk to you tomorrow.

Thanks, David

If you are reading this blog on social media, I appreciate it! I would like to invite you to visit my website, http://www.FeelingGood.com, as well. There you will find a wealth of free goodies, including my Feeling Good blogs, my Feeling Good Podcasts with host, Dr. Fabrice Nye, and the Ask Dr. David blogs as well, along with announcements of upcoming workshops, and tons of resources for mental health professionals as well as patients!

Once you link to my blog, you can sign up using the widget at the top of the column to the right of each page. Please forward my blogs to friends as well, especially anyone with an interest in mood problems, psychotherapy, or relationship conflicts.

Thanks! David