David’s Tuesday Tips (#2)*

David’s Tuesday Tips (#2)*

Here’s your paradoxical tip of the day!

The failure to set the agenda is the cause of nearly all therapeutic failure.

 

Use the Reply / Comment feature below to let us to know how you understand today’s tip.

Thanks!

David

* Copyright © 2018 by David D. Burns, MD.

Coming Soon!

High-Speed TEAM-CBT for Depression and Anxiety Disorders 

I warmly invite you to attend this fabulous, one-day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt on Sunday, May 20th, 2018. Click on the link above for registration information.

  • 6 CE Credits
  • The cost is $135
  • You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

You will enjoy learning from David and Jill, working together to bring powerful, healing techniques to life in a clear, step-by-step way. Their teaching style is entertaining, funny, lucid, and inspiring. This is a day you will remember fondly!

In the afternoon, you will have the chance to do some personal healing so you can overcome your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. David and Jill promise to bring at least 60% of the audience into a state of spiritual and psychological enlightenment, WITHOUT years of meditation. That’s not a bad deal!

You will also leave this workshop with renewed confidence as well as specific, powerful tools that you can use right away to improve your clinical outcomes!

You will LOVE this workshop. Seating for those who attend live in Palo Alto will be strictly limited, and seats are filling up fast, so move rapidly if you are interested. Online slots are also limited.

Jill and I hope you can join us!

 

 

The Solution to Tuesday Tip (#1)*

The Solution to Tuesday Tip (#1)*

This was my “puzzle” (the paradoxical Tuesday tip) for yesterday:

The attempt to solve a relationship / marital problem is the cause of nearly all relationship problems. The refusal to solve the problem is nearly always the solution.

 

Many of you commented, and all had good things to say, which cheered me up and gave me some optimism that this new feature, suggested by Lisa Kelley, might be fun or useful for some of you! That’s great!

Two or three folks were really close to the target, and I would have to say, got it right.

Here is my explanation. Often two people in a relationship get frustrated because they cannot solve some problem they are kind of arguing about. For example, I once treated two divorced individuals fell in love and got married. They adored each other. But the woman, in her 30’s, really wanted to have a baby, since her first husband, who dumped her, was against having children.

However, her new husband was a super handsome and loving man who was 15 years her senior, and he already had five children from his first marriage, and he did not want any more. So they kept debating about the so-called “correct” solution to this problem. And, of course, they just kept running around in circles.

In a situation like this, there are really two different levels that one can think about when you view the interaction between the two people. On one level, you have the so-called “real” problem, which is: should we, or should we not, have a child? So you argue about what is “fair,” what is “just” and what will work out the “best.” etc. That is level one, the “content” of the argument, the intellectual side, you might say.

And the attempt to solve this “problem” IS the problem. Because, on some level, it CANNOT be “solved.”

But at the other level, you have a “river of emotion” flowing underneath the surface. She has many strong feelings, of sadness, of love for her new husband, of strong desires to be a mother, of frustration, of abandonment, of anxiety about growing old and childless, and so forth. He also has many strong feelings, of love for her, frustration, oppression, sadness, and anxiety about being overwhelmed just at the time of life he was looking forward to some freedom, to name just a few.

So the “solution” is to STOP trying to solve the problem, and instead to use the Five Secrets of Effective Communication to listen to the other person’s perspective, to acknowledge the truth in it, and especially to acknowledge how he or she is feeling, and to share, respectfully, your own feelings. The goal becomes the sharing of feelings, and listening to feelings, in an attitude of openness and respect, rather than compulsively arguing about the “best solution.”

This means letting go of feelings of entitlement, and focusing on how your partner is thinking and feeling. Getting back to a loving relationship. When two people feel loved, in most cases you won’t have to solve the so-called “real problem.” A solution will generally emerge.

So I coached them in how to do this, and we practiced in the office. I gave them the “assignment” to practice communicating, but both must refuse to try to “solve the problem.”

They were motivated because of their love for each other, and did their “homework.”

The wife called me in a state of excitement three weeks later to report that her husband woke up that morning and announced he’d had a sudden change of heart and wanted a baby. Their daughter was born less than a year later.

To learn to use the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, I would strongly recommend my book, Feeling Good Together, which you can order through Amazon.com and other booksellers. This book will be helpful to therapists, your patients, and the general public alike. You can also listen to my Feeling Good Podcast series on the Five Secrets as well as the series on Healing Troubled Relationships.

So now you have lots of new tools to use if you want to develop more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about!

Hope you enjoyed the first riddle and its solution. Next Tuesday, look for “Tip #2!”

David

* Copyright © 2018 by David D. Burns, MD.

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High-Speed TEAM-CBT for Depression and Anxiety Disorders 

I warmly invite you to attend this fabulous, one-day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt on Sunday, May 20th, 2018. Click on the link above for registration information.

  • 6 CE Credits
  • The cost is $135
  • You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

You will enjoy learning from David and Jill, working together to bring powerful, healing techniques to life in a clear, step-by-step way. Their teaching style is entertaining, funny, lucid, and inspiring. This is a day you will remember fondly!

In the afternoon, you will have the chance to do some personal healing so you can overcome your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. David and Jill promise to bring at least 60% of the audience into a state of spiritual and psychological enlightenment, WITHOUT years of meditation. That’s not a bad deal!

You will leave this workshop with renewed confidence as well as specific, powerful tools that you can use right away to improve your clinical outcomes!

You will LOVE this workshop. Seating for those who attend live in Palo Alto will be strictly limited, and seats are filling up fast, so move rapidly if you are interested. Online slots are also limited.

Jill and I hope you can join us!

 

 

David’s Tuesday Tips (#1)*

David’s Tuesday Tips (#1)*

Here’s your paradoxical tip of the day!

The attempt to solve a relationship / marital problem is the cause of nearly all relationship problems. The refusal to solve the problem is nearly always the solution.

Let me know if you like this feature. This is just an experiment! I could “explain” each tip, but i thought it might be more fun for you if I keep them short and a bit mysterious.

Use the Reply / Comment feature below to let us to know how you understand today’s tip.

Thanks!

David

* Copyright © 2018 by David D. Burns, MD.

Coming Soon!

High-Speed TEAM-CBT for Depression and Anxiety Disorders 

I warmly invite you to attend this fabulous, one-day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt on Sunday, May 20th, 2018. Click on the link above for registration information.

  • 6 CE Credits
  • The cost is $135
  • You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

You will enjoy learning from David and Jill, working together to bring powerful, healing techniques to life in a clear, step-by-step way. Their teaching style is entertaining, funny, lucid, and inspiring. This is a day you will remember fondly!

In the afternoon, you will have the chance to do some personal healing so you can overcome your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. David and Jill promise to bring at least 60% of the audience into a state of spiritual and psychological enlightenment, WITHOUT years of meditation. That’s not a bad deal!

You will also leave this workshop with renewed confidence as well as specific, powerful tools that you can use right away to improve your clinical outcomes!

You will LOVE this workshop. Seating for those who attend live in Palo Alto will be strictly limited, and seats are filling up fast, so move rapidly if you are interested. Online slots are also limited.

Jill and I hope you can join us!

 

 

Brief Hiking Video!

Brief Hiking Video!

 

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Hi colleagues and friends,

Someone sent me this cool brief video of one of our hikes several months ago. You will get a glimpse of what happens. Hope you like it! (When you click on the video link, it may need a half a minute to download before you watch it.)

https://feelinggood.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/IMG_0671.mov

On the hikes we do personal work, practice techniques, and do difficult case consultations. We generally hike for three to four hours, and sometimes go out for brunch afterwards. We may have as few as 3 or 4 hikers, or as many as a dozen. The hikes are totally awesome, and we often experience “magic” along the way.

This is our way of “worship,” by being real and doing real healing while we hike. The hikes are the highlight of my week! But I’ve had bronchitis for two weeks, so had to temporarily cancel them. Hope to start up again soon.

The hikes are free and open to anyone in our training groups. Sometimes therapists from around the US visit and join our hikes, too. Let me know if you plan to be in this area on a Sunday and want to join us!

That’s all for now. Not a terribly deep blog, but thought you might enjoy a “peak” into a Sunday hike. As you can see, the people are awesome and the trails are to die for! The healing is pretty mind-blowing, too!

David

Coming Soon!

High-Speed TEAM-CBT for Depression and Anxiety Disorders 

I warmly invite you to attend this fabulous, one-day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt on Sunday, May 20th, 2018. Click on the link above for registration information.

  • 6 CE Credits
  • The cost is $135
  • You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

You will enjoy learning from David and Jill, working together to bring powerful, healing techniques to life in a clear, step-by-step way. Their teaching style is entertaining, funny, lucid, and inspiring. This is a day you will remember fondly!

In the afternoon, you will have the chance to do some personal healing so you can overcome your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. David and Jill promise to bring at least 60% of the audience into a state of spiritual and psychological enlightenment, WITHOUT years of meditation. That’s not a bad deal!

You will also leave this workshop with renewed confidence as well as specific, powerful tools that you can use right away to improve your clinical outcomes!

You will LOVE this workshop. Seating for those who attend live in Palo Alto will be strictly limited, and seats are filling up fast, so move rapidly if you are interested. Online slots are also limited.

Jill and I hope you can join us!

 

 

Register for the May 20, 2018 Workshop with David and Jill!

Register for the May 20, 2018 Workshop with David and Jill!

 

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Coming Soon!

High-Speed TEAM-CBT for Depression and Anxiety Disorders 

I warmly invite you to attend this fabulous, one-day workshop by Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt on Sunday, May 20th, 2018. Click on the link above for registration information.

  • 6 CE Credits
  • The cost is $135
  • You can join in person or online from wherever you live!

You will enjoy learning from David and Jill, working together to bring powerful, healing techniques to life in a clear, step-by-step way. Their teaching style is entertaining, funny, lucid, and inspiring. This is a day you will remember fondly!

In the afternoon, you will have the chance to do some personal healing so you can overcome your own feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. David and Jill promise to bring at least 60% of the audience into a state of spiritual and psychological enlightenment, WITHOUT years of meditation. That’s not a bad deal!

You will also leave this workshop with renewed confidence as well as specific, powerful tools that you can use right away to improve your clinical outcomes!

You will LOVE this workshop. Seating for those who attend live in Palo Alto will be strictly limited, and seats are filling up fast, so move rapidly if you are interested. Online slots are also limited.

Jill and I hope you can join us!

 

 

David and Jill Show #4: Treatment of OCD

David and Jill Show #4: Treatment of OCD

Watch the fourth David and Jill Show on the Treatment of OCD!

Hi all!

The fourth David and Jill Show on the treatment of OCD with guest Mike Christensen will start at 3 PM. Show #3 has set a new record of more than 2 thousand viewers in the first week alone. You can still watch it!

During the show, we will also answer questions from those who attend the show live. We’ll have a lot of energy and ideas to share, so join us if you can!

The Feeling Good Podcast last Monday–live therapy with Daisy–also drew exceptionally well and was enthusiastically received. In fact, this month it looks like we will set a new record with more than 40,000 downloads! Thank you all for your support!

During the session with Daisy, we address the question, “What’s the secret of a meaningful life?” We also discuss the empowerment of women, and the intimidating messages women often hear from society, and from families when growing up. Make sure you catch it if you have not listened yet!

Also, remember to register for the one-day David and Jill workshop on Sunday, May 20, 2018. It’s for mental health professionals. You’ll have a chance to learn the latest TEAM-CBT techniques and work on your own insecurities and feelings of self-doubt as well. We promise to bring roughly 60% of the audience into a state of joyous enlightenment, so don’t miss it!

David

Advanced, High-Speed TEAM-CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety:
A Workshop for Therapists with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt

 

David and Jill Show #3 Sets Record!

David and Jill Show #3 Sets Record!

Watch the Third David and Jill Show on Intimacy Training!

Hi all!

The third David and Jill Show on Intimacy Training with guest Mike Christensen has set a new record of 1.6 thousand viewers in the first two days alone. You can still watch it!

David and Jill begin by reading a question from a viewer named Don who was having a conflict with his girlfriend. David, Jill, and Mike go review the five steps of the Relationship Journal and show how Don how he can transform his argument into a more open and loving dialogue using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication. During the show, Jill notices a live viewer who wrote, “I don’t like Jill” in the comment column. You will LOVE Jill’s masterful response, which illustrates the whole point of the show in real time. Then Mike describes how he bravely handled a painful criticism from his daughter who complained that he sounded phony.

Many people believe that the Relationship Journal is all about learning how to communicate more effectively, but it’s not. It’s really about the “Great Death” of the ego and how to develop interpersonal enlightenment. It’s a spiritual tool, which is exciting, but be careful–the death of the ego can be painful! Of course, the reward of greater trust and love is definitely worthwhile. The third David and Jill Show is definitely a “must see” show, and you can catch it any time that’s convenient for you.

Yesterday’s Feeling Good Podcast–live therapy with Daisy–also drew exceptionally well and was enthusiastically received. During the session, they address the question, “What’s the secret of a meaningful life?” Make sure you catch it if you have not listened yet!

Also, remember to register for the one-day David and Jill workshop on Sunday, May 20, 2018. It’s for mental health professionals. You’ll have a chance to learn the latest TEAM-CBT techniques and work on your own insecurities and feelings of self-doubt as well. We promise to bring roughly 60% of the audience into a state of joyous enlightenment, so don’t miss it!

David

Advanced, High-Speed TEAM-CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety:
A Workshop for Therapists with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt

 

David Live on Facebook: Do Psychiatrists Prescribe Too Much? Do “Mental Disorders” Exist?

David Live on Facebook: Do Psychiatrists Prescribe Too Much? Do “Mental Disorders” Exist?

The David Show!

March 4, 2018, 3 PM Pacific Standard Time

Hi all!

The first two David and Jill Shows surpassed all expectations and were tremendous, in my opinion, but I am biased! I just think Jill is brilliant, amazing, and very compassionate. Last Sunday, we answered the question–how can you respond to blatantly racists comments using the Five Secrets of Effective Communication? A challenging question, for sure, but the answer was mind-blowing. Check it out if you haven’t seen that show yet! All the Sunday shows are posted on my public FB page for viewing any time you want.

The next David and Jill Show (Episode 3) will be next Sunday, March 11th, at 3 PM, by the way.

Tomorrow, on the “David Show,” I will have special guest Lisa Kelley, a TEAM-CBT therapist from Colorado who will be visiting and joining me on the show and on the Sunday hike as well. I will be answering your questions, as usual, including two recent and controversial questions:

  1. Do psychiatrists prescribe too much?
  2. Do “mental disorders,” as described in the DSM5, actually exist? (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, published by the American Psychiatric Association.)

Years ago, Thomas Szasz, MD wrote a popular and controversial book entitled The Myth of Mental Illness, in which, according to Wikipedia, he argued “against the concept of mental illness.” And yet, given the recent epidemic of horrific school shootings in Florida and elsewhere, it seems very compelling to believe that mental illness is not a myth, but a harsh reality. What does David Burns think? Tune in tomorrow and I’ll share my thinking on this, and any other mental health topics of interest to you!

Also, remember to register for the one-day David and Jill workshop on Sunday, May 20, 2018. It’s for mental health professionals. You’ll have a chance to learn the latest TEAM-CBT techniques and work on your own insecurities and feelings of self-doubt as well. We promise to bring roughly 60% of the audience into a state of joyous enlightenment, so don’t miss it!

Also, below you’ll find another little plug for my upcoming workshop with Jill on May 20th! I think it will be a good one, and you can come in person or join us via your computer live.

David

Advanced, High-Speed TEAM-CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety:
A Workshop for Therapists with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt

The Weekly David and Fabrice Feeling Good Podcast

Fabrice and I hope you also enjoy our weekly Feeling Good Podcasts, and would encourage you can leave some positive comments for us and some five star ratings if you like what we’re doing! We are now enjoying nearly 40,000 downloads per month from listeners like you, from people all around the world. Thank you so much for your super support of our podcasts!

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David and Jill Show #2 Tomorrow

David and Jill Show #2 Tomorrow

The David and Jill Show!

February 25, 2018, 3 PM Pacific Standard Time

Hi all!

The first David and Jill Show surpassed expectations and was great fun! Jill, as usual, was crisp and brilliant in responding to your questions, and we got wonderful feedback, with more than 1400 downloads already. Tune in at my public FB page tomorrow, Sunday February 25, at 3 PM for the second edition of our show live and ask questions on any mental health topic.  The show is aimed at therapists, patients, and the general public. If you can’t join us live, you can watch anytime that is convenient for you, since the shows are recorded on FB. You can find us on my public FB page.

Also, remember to register for the one-day David and Jill workshop on Sunday, May 20, 2018. It’s for mental health professionals. You’ll have a chance to learn the latest TEAM-CBT techniques and work on your own insecurities and feelings of self-doubt as well. We promise to bring roughly 60% of the audience into a state of joyous enlightenment, so don’t miss it!

David

Advanced, High-Speed TEAM-CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety:
A Workshop for Therapists with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt

The Weekly David and Fabrice Feeling Good Podcast

Fabrice and I hope you also enjoy our weekly Feeling Good Podcasts, and would encourage you can leave some positive comments for us and some five star ratings if you like what we’re doing! We are now enjoying nearly 40,000 downloads per month from listeners like you, from people all around the world. Thank you so much for your super support of our podcasts!

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Five TEAM-CBT Online Training Opportunities / David and Jill Show Premiers Tomorrow!

Five TEAM-CBT Online Training Opportunities / David and Jill Show Premiers Tomorrow!

World Premiere

The David and Jill Show!

February 18, 2018, 3 PM Pacific Standard Time

Hi all!

Tune in at my public FB page for the first edition of the David and Jill Show on my 3 PM Facebook Broadcast.  I’m not yet sure exactly what will happen, but we’ll certainly take questions from therapists as well as the general public on mental health issues. I have tremendous admiration for Dr. Jill Levitt, and I know you will greatly enjoy her as well. She is a highly skilled therapist and a world-class teacher. So make sure you tune in at 3 PM California time if you want to post your question live, or catch the recording at any time you want later in the week on my public FB page.

Also, see below for several upcoming training opportunities in TEAM-CBT, including a series on how to use TEAM with children, as well as the one day workshop with Jill and David on Sunday, May 20, 2018.

David

Five Upcoming TEAM-CBT Training Opportunities 

TEAM-CBT for depression and anxiety: A practical introduction for therapists with Dr. Jill Levitt, based on the work of Dr. David Burns

Comprehensive Live Online TEAM-CBT Training for Therapists Working with Children and Adolescents with Dr. Taylor Chesney

TEAM-CBT Skills, Training and Practice: A Case-Based Course with Daniel Mintie

Practical TEAM-CBT Methods for Depression, Anxiety and Unwanted Habits with Dr. Jill Levitt

Advanced, High-Speed TEAM-CBT for the Treatment of Depression and Anxiety: A Workshop for Therapists with Drs. David Burns and Jill Levitt

Click on my Facebook tab on https://feelinggood.com/ if you’d like to watch me each week on my Live Facebook broadcast each Sunday afternoon around 3 p.m. PST. Make sure to “like” my Public Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/DavidBurnsMD/ so you can watch it on my page or yours.How to Find My FB Broadcasts

Join me as I answer mental health questions from viewers — therapists and non-therapists alike — from all over the world. Type your question in the Facebook feed and I’ll do my best to answer it.

If you miss the broadcast you can watch the saved videos on my Facebook page! Also, viewers can watch these Live Facebook broadcasts as well as other interesting TEAM-CBT videos on the Feeling Good Institute’s YouTube channel!

The David and Fabrice Feeling Good Podcasts

Fabrice and I hope you also enjoy our Feeling Good Podcasts, and also hope you can leave some positive comments for us and some five star ratings if you like what we’re doing! We are already enjoying 25,000 downloads per month from listeners like you. Thank you so much for your support of our podcasts!

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